Reinvention Tips: Reinvented Mothers

Monday, May 12, 2008

Happy Mother’s Day-week!

I was one of those women, ala, Sex & the City’s Carrie Bradshaw, who really didn’t know if I ever wanted to be a “mom.” Zipping through life, enjoying the ride of personal discovery, career, dating and friends, I truly never put much thought into motherhood.

I also had a peer group on a similar track, even as we approached our early 30’s, we occasionally would brooch the topic, “Do you think you’ll ever have kids?” Unanimously it was a gray zone…no pressing urge, no biological clock. One thing was certain we wouldn’t date men with children. If we wanted to have kids we would choose it for ourselves, no “mom’s by default” for our group.

Funny enough, years later we realized that our steadfast declaration proved:
Women don’t always know they want and never say never.

A few short years later, we’ve all reinvented ourselves by choice- to not only dating men with children, but marrying them, thus becoming step-moms. Who’d have thunk?

Recently one of my friends, we’ll call her Samantha, said, “You know how they say mother’s are under-appreciated? I’d like to trump that statement with step-mother’s are under appreciated!”

We both had a fun chuckle as we lamented about our roles. We give, serve, love, tutor, schedule, carpool and sacrifice our personal time-you know….all the things good mother’s do. Then we discussed all the things our step-mother label didn’t give us; the freedom to discipline, direct and make major choices like which school, camp or extra-curricular activities the children should attend and partake.

But, alas, the reward of it all is realized when Mother’s Day arrives and we receive a card with the words, “Happy-Mother’s Day absent the word “step.” Because when it comes right down to it…we truly are moms by choice not default.

Lisa Lockwood is a Speaker, Author & Reinvention Expert
She can be reached at Lisa@LisaLockwood.com www.LisaLockwood.com

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